Sexual Differences

This week in class we talked about the sexual differences between males and females. One difference was that females take longer to be aroused than males, and that females arousal remains longer than males.

Knowing this we were asked, "What could be some challenges or opportunities with this?" Some challenges would  be that the couple would misunderstand one another and interpret their reactions wrongly. That one might feel neglected while the other seems pushed, when really their bodies work differently. Another might be that it could be hard to connect. Another challenge might be that one manipulates the other by seeing their sexual relation as a weakness.

Now, some opportunities with having this difference will strengthen marriage and the love between the two individuals. Such as there being more intimacy--spending time together; they can do so by working together to make it more pleasant, they both become aware of the other and their needs and worry about them and not themselves, therefore creating a sense of selflessness. It can also provide the opportunity to work at or become patient, as well as develop communication skills.

We must be aware of these sexual differences and see it in a way to grow, not inhibit.

As a side note, I believe that sexual relations should remain within the bonds of marriage and that it should only be discussed with your spouse and in private. If in counseling it is good to discuss it, but with a good purpose. Sex is sacred.