Effort Is Required

I must say that in my own observations, a lot (not all) of young, and possibly some older, couples tend to have an expectation for marriage that seems unrealistic. They seem to think that once you are married you are done. This may be true in the sense of dating and finding someone to tie the knot with, but not with putting forth effort.

It seems that right as they marry and have the "honeymoon glow" for a couple months they are doing just great and are romantic and very involved, then life hits, and then they stop "trying" they don't always look their best, they rarely show enthusiasm toward you or what you have to say. When an argument comes they "blow up" and they bicker and continue that contention instead of discussing and working it out.

By this point couples tend to think, "Did I marry the wrong person?" "Is marriage this hard?" or "I don't want to do this anymore." This then leads to more doubts and eventually separation or possibly divorce.

Now, the thing is, is that effort is needed in marriage. You both are responsible for each other, you look after one another and protect and care about one another. You WILL have arguments, but it is how you resolve them that really matters, learning how to resolve issues between one another is key and will not only settle the dispute, but will strengthen the marriage and bring you closer together.